"Divorce need not to be considered a failure... it should be an informed decision... this is not a 'how to book'. Neither to help people remain or extricate themselves from marriage... the divorce rate has approached the 50% mark and is climbing... a newly married man is not to be drafted into the army nor given any other responsibilities; for a year he shall be free to be at home, happy with his wife (Deuteronomy 24.5... when our arguments began Gustoff increased his level of violence... he began to physically abuse me... Antonio had a sexual affair with an old girlfriend... we fought over it and again this marriage became as violent as my first marriage... Steve did not want children, he deceived me... he would wear two condoms when we had sex to avoid my pregnancy... I thought, through education, counseling and determination I could stop the abuse... the key thought truly lead me to freedom... within an hour after we were married George was arrested... my troubles were just starting... he never made love to me and I knew his intention was for me to set him up in business... my stepfather was a very handsome man... I simply told him I would tell my mother if he didn't make love with me... Charles traveled... my girlfriends and I would go to the bars and drink... Ken came to live with us... we began to have sex... I could have taught him a great deal more about sex... I didn't want him to think I was the expert... when Tony was on drugs he would come into my room and rape me... I blame John Lee and his drinking for ending the marriage... sex became an ordeal... for the first three months I never had a sexual climax with him... the first affair I caught him in was with my best girlfriend... I miss a man around the house to help me with my son, but I don't miss the abuse I accepted to be a wife... Fred became very passive and demanding of me... he suggested we switch partners... John and I had finished making love when Jim came in and caught us... we had switched partners and I couldn't understand his anger... he said he was not going to live with a woman who screwed his buddy behind his back... it was his idea to switch partners... when he came home after screwing half the night and wanted to get between my legs... that was just too much... I blame myself for being so stupid to marry Tony... what a surprise... John had Elaine on the desk and she was only wearing her shoes... his penis was well within her when we opened the door... I would never allow anyone to stomp over me again... don't believe in story book marriages... people must work at marriage if it is to work... all the time!